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How we see Valentines’ Day

How we see Valentines’ Day

995594_201216020069215_134138452_nThe team of writers at Queen of Sea shares their opinion about modern day love and the much celebrated Valentine’s day.

Lilani (first year student of the University of Colombo):

Love is for sale. Yes, you read it right. Love, is for sale and in this society, you even get discounts, based on your level of commitment. People say “I love you” without even having a clue of what love is. They think that ‘Need’ is love. They think that ‘Touch’ is love. They do not know, that love is holding one’s hand and holding it till that hand wears out with the course of time and age. So then we come to ‘Valentine’s day’. And that is where we all go wrong. It has to be a celebration of true love and commitment.

Charitha (Journalist residing in Sydney, Australia):

Love is important but you have your own life as well. True love happens when you can grow with the other person. So career dreams of a woman should go hand in hand not passing her. Education is more important than anyone.

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I haven’t seen a better love story than my parents’. As far as I know, it’s not a so called ‘love marriage’ but a proposed one. But it’s amazing to see their relationship. I’m not trying to paint it with an extremely rosy hue, every relationship has ups and downs. Yet, as I learned from them, the basis is trust and faithfulness. Durable and healthy relationships need those two ingredients more than any other. Love is a feeling that doesn’t arise all the time. It comes rarely, slowly but suddenly and we don’t feel it all the time toward all the people. So, it’s such a unique feeling that should be protected and nurtured with trust and faithfulness.

Thalatha (retired school teacher):

My generation has never heard about the Valentine’s day when we were young. To my knowledge this day has a religious origin. I feel young lovers should enjoy this day not only by exchanging gifts, but participating in religious activities together. I think now this day has been too much commercialised. Young girls will end up in hotel rooms with their lovers under the influence of booze or drugs. So girls should be aware of the dangers of being in love with the wrong person. They should identify true love from lust. Also parents should warn their children. Actually, this Valentine’s day concept is much new to our culture. Most of flower shops and gift shops tend to earn profits by luring young kids to buy gifts for their crush. Young girl and boys should be aware of it. School children should focus on studies. When students get hold of such romantic ideas, it disrupts their education.

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Ladini (postgraduate student employed in IT industry):

Valentine! Indeed everyone is so excited about this word and I hope February 14th is the date that they have in the mind right now. But, I wonder how many people know the history behind this date. Why such date is announced and all. There is a history for everything so I invite you all to search and see what the legend beneath this date is. But unfortunately today, this date is just another marketing date where lovers are marketing their love while the business men market their goods. In my opinion it is good that the lovers even have a day to show their love, but why this single day? Can’t you all show the love each and every day? Every second you can show your love even from a single word or a single action. So my message for you is to love the people around you and all the living beings every time you breathe. Show your love even with a single wholehearted smile. That’s the simplest way to spread and convey your love. Don’t ever get caught by the traps in the society and don’t make your selves to be slaves of the society’s’ needs by going with the trend all follows.

Nadiya (Business Analyst employed in IT industry):

When the word love is mentioned most of us imagine of the significant other or better half. It is nothing bad, as human beings that is what we yearn for. Love is something more than that if you have a closer look. It’s a mothers love for her baby who haven’t yet seen the world. It’s a father’s protection for his little prince and princess. A sister’s care and a brother’s hug. And a friend’s support in good and bad. Grandma’s food and grandpa’s stories. They all sum up just the love of family. To define love in a single phrase would be injustice. It is a common language shared by souls whether human or animal, old or young, rich or poor, alive or dead. And if anyone says ‘I can’t find love’, ask them not to look in every corner of the world but around themselves with their heart not their eyes.

Pictures by Sandunika Hasangani and Uditha Rajasekara.

About The Author

Hasitha Adhikariarachchi

Hasitha is the winner of Multilingual Poetry Slam, NSW, Australia (2017). She fell in love with this profession when she was a little girl who loved writing her heart out. She represented Sri Lanka at the South Asian Film Arts and Literature Festival (SAFAL Fest) in Sydney. She started Queen of Sea in 2013 and now she shares its’ space for publishing write-ups with her friends who love writing as much as she does.

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